Many people consider abortion a form of healthcare. It is compared to other medically necessary procedures, such as removing a tooth. But you never hear about people experiencing regret, loss, or grief over the loss of a tooth.
Yet statistics indicate that many women deeply regret abortion. In one study, 44% of women who had an abortion said they regretted it. Countless women have come forward saying things like, “I am never to forget what I did, and I am never going to forgive myself,” and describing abortion as “the biggest mistake I’ve ever made.”
One study found that nearly 2,000 women who had an abortion, even eight years later, were 65% more likely to score in the “high-risk” range for clinical depression than women whose first pregnancies resulted in a birth.
Furthermore, A significant percentage of post-abortive women experience Posttraumatic Stress Disorder after the termination of Pregnancy.
Why do so many man women regret abortion?
The truth is, no one is seriously claiming the “clump of cells” argument anymore. Even *pro-choice* biologists agree: life begins at fertilization.
Did you know? At the moment of fertilization, genetics, ethnicity, hair, eye color, and many other traits are already determined!
In other words, an unborn baby is a child. That being the case, no one denies that there is a strong bond between a mother and her child. Even if the mother had never seen or held her child, both science and history attest to this deep, unfathomable connection.
Women are being lied to.
You are told that the baby inside of you is just a thing, a bit of matter. Yet countless post-abortive women experience the profound grief of loss. The clump of cells’ narrative simply does not hold up.
Pro-abortionists will tell you that your grief is due to judgment, guilt-mongering, or condemnation from others.
Women are discovering that this explanation cannot possibly account for the staggering levels of regret and loss that many post-abortive women feel. Again, we wouldn’t even be having this conversation if it were just a pulled tooth. No “societal judgment” would suddenly make you feel guilty over getting rid of a tumor.
This can lead to what is known as “disenfranchised grief,” a grief that is not recognized in society. When post-abortive women know something is wrong, they are not permitted to process it.
This kind of grief can be extremely confusing. You might think, why can’t I just move on? But that in itself betrays the truth. The very fact that you feel it demonstrates a deeper reality.
In that case, you need to allow yourself time to process and seek help and healing.
Are you Struggling After an Abortion?
If you had an abortion and are having difficulty processing it, you may experience specific symptoms. These symptoms can include:
- Self-destructive behaviors
- Constant flashbacks and reliving the abortion
- Nightmares about the abortion
- Physical symptoms, like headaches and insomnia
- A feeling of emotional numbing
Because there is no external evidence that the baby ever existed, the overall feeling of loss can be disorienting and confusing. You might feel random bouts of shame or anger.
Pro-abortionists will tell you that you are imagining your feelings of loss and that you need to just get over it. But if you feel deep down that there is more to it, you might need a safe space to process these feelings.
Finding Hope and Help At Choices
Coping with the aftermath of an abortion can be traumatic. Don’t let shame or condemnation rule your life. Remember, God offers you new life, forgiveness, and redemption.