What Role Do I Play?
Men can often be the forgotten person in an unplanned pregnancy. She may make the final decision about the pregnancy, but as the baby's father, you share in the responsibility for that choice. Is the decision she's making one you can live with the rest of your life? It's not uncommon for men to experience the same feelings of guilt and regret after an abortion. Know your options. You have a voice and a choice. Here are some steps you can take?
1. DECIDE to take responsibility in her choice
One of the greatest joys and desires of a man's heart is to be a hero for someone who really needs you, to protect and care for those who are more vulnerable than you, to leave a legacy that lives beyond your lifetime. If you are dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, you are in the position to begin living up to those desires and becoming the man you want to be - you can begin this by speaking up and being involved in the decision-making process. We can help you learn how to walk this journey with her in a loving and supportive manner.
2. Determine to know the Facts
Sometimes men think being "supportive" means just going along with whatever their partner wants to do, but to be truly supportive, you need to know the facts about what abortion really is, what it can do to your partner's physical, mental and emotional health, and how it may affect you. Our male Client Advocates can talk through these issues with you and help you come up with a plan that is supportive in the best sense of the word.
3. Dedicate yourself to the welfare of your partner and baby
One of the first things men often say in these situations is "I'm not ready to be a father." You may not have had a healthy role model in your own father, or maybe you never even knew your father - so how are you supposed to know how to be a dad? Our Advocates are men who are here to help you learn what it means to be a good father and to empower you to become the man you want to be.